The Power to Learn

I’m excited to share another excerpt from “Flight Plan for Success: Navigating Life – 26 Skills from A to Z.” This time, I’m reflecting on the importance of communication and how my approach has changed with age and experience. In this excerpt, I discuss learning to listen, thinking before speaking, and a piece of wisdom my father once shared that still resonates with me today.

As I’ve gotten older, one of the most important lessons I’ve learned is the value of effective communication, not just knowing how to speak, but also having the wisdom to know when to stay silent. When I was young, my words were often sharper. I would speak before thinking about how my words might be received, driven by impulse or the need to prove a point. I believed that being right was more important than being kind or understanding. I thought that truth, when spoken plainly, was enough, even if it hurt someone in the process.

My father once told me, “You don’t have to be so honest with people all the time.” At the time, I brushed it off. I thought honesty was a virtue to be practiced openly, regardless of the situation. But over the years, I’ve come to understand what he meant. Honesty without tact or empathy can do more harm than good. There’s a difference between being truthful and being hurtful.

Life has a way of humbling you. Relationships, whether personal or professional, have taught me that words carry weight. They can heal or hurt, lift someone up or tear them down. I’ve learned to pause and ask myself whether what I’m about to say is necessary, helpful, or kind. That moment of pause has often saved me from regret. Silence is no longer something I fear; it’s a tool I value.

I’ve also come to realize the power of listening. Not just hearing but truly listening. It involves being present, patient, and open to others’ thoughts and feelings. This type of listening fosters trust, respect, and stronger bonds.

In “Flight Plan for Success”, I encourage young adults to communicate intentionally and with empathy because I’ve experienced the consequences of being too blunt, as well as the rewards of choosing my words carefully. My journey has shown me that effective communication isn’t just about expressing yourself; it’s about understanding others.

I’m still learning, but one thing has become clear: words can’t be taken back. Speak clearly, listen with compassion, and remember that sometimes, the kindest thing you can say is nothing at all.

This book makes an excellent gift for any young adult about to graduate, offering timeless guidance as they prepare to chart their life’s course.

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